Bestfrenemies: The Julie Ann Rodelas Murder Case"

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Bestfrenemies: a word coined from "bestfriends" and "enemies". These are the words that would best describe the relationship of the alleged primary suspect Althea Altamirano and the victim Julie Ann "Jaja" Rodelas. They started as bestfriends and ended up as enemies. Athea used to support Jaja in her modelling career by lending her clothes and accessories. For Jaja, Althea was her idol. This could be attested by the pictures posted in their Facebook accounts.However, due to the alleged gossiping of Jaja, Althea, together with her boyfriend and other suspects, plotted to kill Jaja.

This entry would not elaborate on the facts of the crime committed by Althea since there are so many blogs already providing the details of the case. I would give my take on being "bestfrenemies".

 What it takes to become "best of friends"? It starts with the common interest that you both love and enjoy to do. The more things you are in common, the more possibilities of bonding and sharing. As the time flies, your best friend becomes the person that means so much to you.  You could no longer live without the other. You compliment one another. One suffices what is lacking with the other half. Sharing of the deepest secrets follow. You are bound to keep them because of the special bond you already have. You never tolerate the wrong doings of the other friend. One understands, the other forgives. 

There may be trying times that  would test your compatibility. May be because of the individual differences, both may feel the need to be recognized, to be ahead of the other. But because of the special bond, any issues could be easily patched up.

Althea and Jaja could be the best of friends one had wished for, like twin sisters others may say. But what could be the  missing piece in their relationship that later on turned them to become enemies? 

In my opinion, one has lack the "commitment" of being true and serious with the friendship. They had ended as enemies because one has broken the trust the other has founded in the relationship. Althea could be easily blinded by envy, hatred and anger. If they are true best friends, she could just have discuss the issues first with Jaja and patch things up. 

I am not to judge both of them. I just hope that we could learn some important things in their fate and try to apply it in our own lives.

Adventures and Misadventures of Parenting Journal #2: My take on Pregnancy

Pregnancy is a gift from God. In the Old Testament, a woman is considered blessed if she conceives a child in her womb. It is believed that God favored her, heard her prayers and gave her a child. Nowadays, there are women who are not blessed to have a child. Not because they are not being favored by the Lord but somehow could be attributed to some physical factors like stress, chemical changes in the body, infertility and the like (www.babyexpert.com).  

I had a very tough pregnancy. Since it was my first, I was very sensitive to the changes happening inside my body. The experience thrilled me and at the same time exhausted me. I traveled 2 hours everyday just to reach my workplace and it was not easy. My husband and I were also living faraway from our parents so we had to survive our daily tasks dependent on one another.

The greatest challenge we encountered during my pregnancy was when I had a preterm labor. My OB blamed my daily stressful travel for my preterm labor. ;-) While hubby gave the credit to my "Boss". ;-) I had no choice but to stay at home and wait for my due. My OB advised me to have a strict complete bed rest. I was not allowed to go to the bathroom, to take a bath on my own, to walk, to stand up, etc.etc. During that time, my hubby never left my side. Before going to his work, he made sure that all my necessities were beside me: book, vitamins, water, food. He would sneak out and check me during his break time. He made sure that pregnancy would still be a wondrous experience besides the misery of being confined in my bed the whole day. 

Thank you for being my best friend, my boyfriend. ;-)